tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5846214.post6197255538943789900..comments2023-07-21T07:54:55.701-04:00Comments on rockle-riffic - managing mischief since at least 1974: Doubtrocklehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00666217858869960421noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5846214.post-56490559717255997472009-04-01T23:39:00.000-04:002009-04-01T23:39:00.000-04:00OK, my turn... you ARE the Mom. Repeat please "I ...OK, my turn... you ARE the Mom. Repeat please "I am the Mom". No one is superior to you. I don't think of anyone else as my Mom other than my Mom. I mean, someone else gave me life but only my parents gave me LIFE. And thankfully (for me and Cupcake), we have an AWESOME family that never treated me any differently than if I was their biological relative. And certainly, I remember how little Brendan was, but you remember how little Shae was too. She wasn't even a year old when you "got" her, so except for early milestones like what Jaime has now, you will have them all. Heck, Shae has reached some milestones at 2 that Brendan hasn't reached at 4 1/2 and might never reach but I'll be damned if that's a reflection on me as a parent. Enjoy what God has given you on this day and if you must, worry about the other stuff later.Tinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5846214.post-84239336392838793142009-04-01T20:51:00.000-04:002009-04-01T20:51:00.000-04:00thank you all for being awesome. i try not to indu...thank you all for being awesome. i try not to indulge my self-pity very often, but ... i couldn't help myself. even though i know things about shae's mother that are disturbing and, frankly, rather <I>ugly</I>, i do owe her a great debt of gratitude. she's no angel, not by any stretch of the imagination, but if for no other reason than that she makes beautiful babies, one of whom is MINE, she at least deserves my thanks.rocklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00666217858869960421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5846214.post-73080137567838069932009-04-01T18:58:00.000-04:002009-04-01T18:58:00.000-04:00I agree. To be a mother, that takes patience and ...I agree. To be a mother, that takes patience and love and discipline and <I>being a mother</I>. It takes being there every day, it is an active choice. To be a good mother is not an accident. <BR/><BR/>To be a biological mother, that is often an accident. It is often a passive action, we can't force it to happen. we can help, manipulate, but ultimately we can not control that.<BR/><BR/>Cupcake has a biological mother, that mother gave you an empty slate, an empty frame. You will fill in the gaps, you will teach her about the world, you will be her mommy. She is much more your child. Because while she has her bio-mom's blood and genes, she will have your heart and mind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5846214.post-12995830937009765042009-04-01T16:29:00.000-04:002009-04-01T16:29:00.000-04:00I am not a bother, but Rachel you are more of a mo...I am not a bother, but Rachel you are more of a mother to her than I am sure you could imagine. She does look like mom, so she is "your" child...you have so much to compare her too, when you first got her, how big she was then and now...stuff like that. You love her and are providing for her and that means the most to her. I love you and I love her!Shelzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702296922399311090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5846214.post-88628192710072130322009-04-01T09:15:00.000-04:002009-04-01T09:15:00.000-04:00silly, silly girl. (ok, i don't know exactly how y...silly, silly girl. (ok, i don't know exactly how you feel, but ...) honestly, i don't remember all those little milestones. i do think about how big he is, but it's all relative. you can compare cupcake to how big she was when you "got" her, when she was one, etc. IT'S ALL RELATIVE. and just because that other woman could sustain life in her womb - you can sustain life in the outside world, which trust me, is by far harder. you will give her all her future birthdays, and that's way more important than anything else.burger-burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06854167856770379533noreply@blogger.com